Monday, 30 March 2015

How to wait (confidently)

Salutations friends!

The other day someone said to me that they always feel as if people shouldn't look on their phones while they wait, because they look far more self-assured when they just stand there and own the fact they are waiting.

This made me start thinking about our phones, and how much of a social crutch they have become. We use them at any time when we are unoccupied, because it seems now that in our western society you must be doing something at all times. The idea I suppose is that we shouldn't be wasting time, or that if we aren't visibly doing something then we aren't using our time wisely.

However, there is a lot to be said for just daydreaming and letting your mind wander. It helps you to process your day and your life in general, doing nothing. It's actually a good and healthy thing to do, to just sit there and do absolutely nothing for a while.

I think that we look at our phones while we wait because we are worried about what people will think of us; we feel embarrassed to be waiting in a way. We feel as if we are at fault, and are somehow in the wrong because we, or whoever we are meeting, aren't perfectly on time. Or we think that our friend has perhaps forgotten about us, or we have a compulsive need to check the bus timetable again even though that won't make the bus arrive any sooner.

But in fact everyone waits for things all the time, it is such a normal part of life. So I urge you to wait confidently, and put your phone away. Trust that what or whoever you are waiting for will come, and let your mind rest for these spare moments that you have. Look around at the world, what is everyone else doing today? Look up, at the buildings or the trees, have you ever looked up at them before?
Enjoy the moment, be present.

Ps. Please bear with my photography for a bit. I borrowed a friends camera to take these photos, and I am experimenting with photos that are actually relevant to the post I'm making, but thanks to Hazel for being such a gem and letting me photograph her and use her camera.

Pps. I have decided I'm bringing back salutations as a greeting (not that I don't do it already, but it's a thing now). It's happening. #salutations2k15
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